7 Take Control
7) Take control – This often applies to service-oriented women. During sex, we’re thinking about what might please you. It’s hard to turn it off. However, blindfold and order her to hold onto the headboard while you kiss or caress her in a slow, savoring kind of way (see #2 - make her feel like you’re enjoying every inch of her flesh, not just “those” parts). You can loosely tie her wrists if she’d like that, but often the psychological restraint is all that’s needed. Now she can relax, because you’ve given her permission to simply enjoy, not requiring her to do anything else but focus on her own arousal. That means you’ve centered her mind, one of the hardest things for us busy females to do. Sex is one of the few things we cannot enjoy to the max while multi-tasking. Help us think in a linear way, and our libido increases.